BE A MAN, DO THE RIGHT THING

The world is changing. So should people. In our times, women are swarming the work places. Urbanization has irreversibly changed human lifestyle and environment. Feminism has turned women to be more independent, substitued their needs, changing the foreplay between man and woman. These dynamic changes require men to take a look back at our social structure and seek their role in it.

'breadwinners'

We have passed the times when women going to work are a taboo, women earning more than men becoming an issue. Rather than a choice, these has became a need for couples to support their new lifestyle, higher living cost and countries' labour demand.


But the issue is not only about the work but also the after work. Working has changed women's character into more independent, aggressive, out spoken and stress out, or to put it into one word, masculine. That's why I always think that a more appropriate term to replace feminism, is masculinism.

Feminist has argued that women are doing 2 jobs nowadays, working and being housewives(in fact 3 if you count being pregnant). Yet men are still stubborn to get the point. They are still living in the old social contract where their role are sole breadwinners. They must realise that their wives contribute and sacrifice much more comparatively to them. This should ashamed them.

As women work to support their family, so should men contribute doing their household chores. Modern men must be skilled to cook, clean, do laundry, mop etc.

'husband-wife'

Men have always been automatically entrusted with the role as a leader in the family. In previous social structure, women has accepted this gladly as men were the breadwinners and protector of the family. Women were more dependent on men and it was the social norm during those times.

As women become more independent, dictatorship style of leadership is insensible. A society in survival, material and creative stage demands different kinds of leader, so does a relationship. Men literally have to 'man up' in being the leader of the family. In a situation where women has ‘changed’, demanding different needs, in a new environment, leadership doesn't come automatically. It must be earned by acquiring attributes such as being responsible, wiseness, caring and supportive (absent in previous social structure), calm temperament, loyalty etc. These must be nurtured since young.

‘father and child

In the old times, a father's influence on his children is realised through character example, discipline and skills learned by bringing his child to work with him. His focus is concentrated in the physical and mental sphere, but lack in the emotional sphere.

But now internal emotion and thought cannot be express in physical manner, at least according to norm. Parents should in fact consolidate the emotional buildup of a child, more.

As a father, men must learn to engage emotionally with his child, something that is eccentric to some. They must talk to them, give verbal encouragement, listen to their qualms and spend quality time. Give guidance instead of physical discipline.

These are just some of the ‘incompatible-ness’ between men and the new world.

I believe that all our social problems now comes from one main source. That is men’s incompetence. We are living in a society where, sexual maturity blossoms earlier than intellectual maturity (when it should be the other way around), thanks to the exposure that men get from their ‘new found freedom’ environment. That result in men not owning up like a man, not acting like the real men etc.

These all happen because of men’s lack of intellectual maturity, rendering him oblivious or ignorant to those changes that some of it I mentioned above. That’s why this article is written.